You are so great in self reflection. You are accurate in my possible false assumption of what is really there. I do think about what we learn here- to believe none of what they say and half of what they do. Right now, he is does not live here and is buying a house. He seems to have this false illusion that we are going to have this miraculous amicable divorce without emotion. I am not looking to be a jerk but I cannot be a doormat either. I like that you caught my seeking assurance with the detachment question posed to you! You are also accurate in that assessment. I am going with a friend on friday to turn in my response to the court. I am being cooperative and sent him an excel sheet with all of our financials on there so he can fill in his part.
I have to look back at our memories and be realistic about the events. It becomes difficult when you long for that connection to overlook at the realistic toxic relationship patterns. In all honesty, he has not been a great spouse. I am saying this because I was not perfect either. But the truth also is that we had a great friendship and fun in many other areas. 16 years tossed to the side is incredibly difficult to swallow and im devastated. I am upping my exercise game and my spiritual connection with God. But the hard part is the detachment of what our relationship was and his view of looking at all of it from a negative perspective.
