Thanks H.....it has definitely been a process but I feel myself moving from the "acting as if" to the really feeling it stage.
Being separated for the past 8 months and her moving out at BD also helped but I know I could have made things worse by chasing, pursuing, checking up on her, etc. Now it just feels like a formality.
I will still probably feel some emotion in court the day the D is final and I know I am going to be bothered when my kids meet some OM or when I see her with OM for the first time. I need to figure this out. As 25 always said though, don't borrow problems from the future so I just try to stay in the present.
