WW, A ended, but struggling to reconnect (My 11th)

[Coconut]

Jim,

I don't know your Wife, but if she has a way of finding out about surprises ahead of time, it may be because she doesn't like surprises. I know for me, knowing I was going somewhere, but not where would stress me out; don't underestimate the endorphins that anticipation brings on.

You may want to finalize your plans, where are you staying, a excursion or two if your doing any, then surprise your W with the details once you know them. Let her anticipate the trip, let her think of things she would like to do while there (if she's the type to like to plan), and share those ideas with you. let her have the next couple months thinking about and talking about spending a great trip with you, Instead of hiding from you that she knows and not being able to talk with you about it.

My personal opinion, surprises are over rated.