I never initiated sex...but I thought we we’re good. We were always affectionate. Anyhow, he made a few comments that I wasn’t interested in him. I would fall asleep putting kids to bed every night. He hated that! He’d wake me up in one of there beds and I wouldn’t get up. I’d come to bed around 2 when I actually woke up and snuggle with him. I get how lonely that felt....then after fearing A but before A confirmed I’d initiate, making myself available to H every night. He told his friend that it was too much ( I guess maybe it didn’t seem sincere). Once A confirmed I took advice and did not initiate anymore. Slowly we have reached this point, he’s on the couch and rarely wants sex from me. When he does it’s meaningless. All MLC info I read says not to initiate sex, so I stopped and pulled back.