Haha! Thanks for that. I am attentive to language but for some reason I still chose those words. A good reflection of not really being able to reframe and approach it differently. So, the 2x4 on that was good. Now onto the goals. Let's do a retry.
1. To be a committed ex-smoker on a daily basis so that I can keep climbing and being physically healthy. I reward myself by....
Much better. However it's still a moving away from goal not a towards something goal.
2. I am enjoying improving my physical and mental health and I work out at least 3 times a week, and I going indoor climbing at least 2 times a week, with an increase of 10% in strength, agility, and focus. I buy myself some wonderful fitted clothes to show my new figure.
Terrific! You are getting there
3. I am improving constantly and I determinedly take on more managerial tasks with my team, I clearly identify new skills to learn and enjoy learning them. I have a 2-5 year written plan for career development and as a result I earn 10,000? more by 31 January 2019. I can treat myself and my kids to a fun holiday.
Small fix to add measure, otherwise great goal
4. I am joyously committed to improving my relationship with my children by listening and validating their feelings, and giving them space to participate in decision-making on some things that affect them. I ensure this happens every time they stay overnight? I apologise to my children when I don't follow through and rectify as soon as I can. I am an awesome dad having true connection with my children.
Small fix for accountability
5. I am committed to reading/writing at least once a week. I have a short story ready to send for publication by 1 June 2018.
Great goal
6. I am committed to improving my blood sugars/blood pressure by testing and recording my blood and BP every day, taking the medications as needed, and creating in advance a weekly menu with healthy food and cooking with passion and commitment and I glow with health.
Excellent
7. I am enthusiastically committed to improving my mental and emotional well being by reflectively engaging in reframing my thoughts, understanding and processing emotions, taking a wider perspective, with self-compassion and gratitude in a daily journal?.
How does this list look V?
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Much better, much much better. Get this right as a technique and your world will change radically. Goals can be flexible too, you can add, subtract and don't forget rewards.
Now a suggestion if I may?
Get a pin board and have these on that pin board, add pictures to represent what you want. You can even do a dummy payslip showing the increase in your pay by 1,000 per month. Or add a page from the magazine you want to be published in. Pictures of happy kids and a dad.
Go to it!
You are on your way.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
