To be expected... What action can you take to calm the nerves?
Originally Posted By: winner
My WAH talks to me more openly but I cannot see him in there anymore. I still long for that man that I used to know.
Perhaps he speaks more openly because he no longer fears things that he feels led him to his decision... Perhaps you simply perceive he speaks more openly... I beleive an important rule that we learn in this neighborhood applies and is a salve needed for your healing and in taking those first steps toward the state of detachment...believe nothing he says and only half of what he does.
Perspective tweak for you to ponder... Attachment is a source of pain...
Is “longing” of a memory that may not be accurate a choice? Is the memory of the man you used to know a fantasized memory and desire? These are the unhealthy habits you will learn to replace if you choose the healthy approach to detaching.
Originally Posted By: winner
These small things make it even more difficult to detach. I have begun to invest in myself and I can see some hope in ME here and there throughout the day.
The poor choice of having a cupboard full of cookies and cake are small things that make healthy eating difficult. Continuing to evaluate if you “see him in there” and “longing” for a memory of a person in the past are most certainly the equivalent of a choice that you make...
How can you make choices to make this easier for yourself?
Hope is a powerful choice and ingredient for progress..and it requires action to for the recipe to result in desired outcome.
What action will you take?
Originally Posted By: winner
This has to be a positive sign right?
Are you referring to HOPE as the positive sign? Perhaps hope is simply the spark that can ignite the process...my journey has taught me that action is the core ingredient for all positive lasting outcomes...my 2 cents
Originally Posted By: winner
In your process, did your WAW mention anything about your detachment process?
Would my response to your question influence your resolve to do the work required to learn and practice the art of healthy detachment?
What are you truely aiming to accomplish for yourself? The answer to this question is where peace and strength can be attained.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
