Bye bye limbo -- it's time for a change

[mleigh4]

Hi DnJ, Thank you so much for your support. I continue to follow your thread and check in on you. You have some very experienced and wise people giving you advice, I am always so happy to see the support you are giving. I knew H family was messed up, but over the years it has become so much more clear. It's a shame only 1 out of his sibling group of 3 chose to break the cycle.

Hi HW, you are absolutely correct, there is no excuse for H behavior. He made his choices and will now live with them. I have always been a very curious person, always needing to know why, especially with people's behaviors. Isn't it just perfect I hooked up with a MLC'ER! Poor MIL is a mess, isn't she? I find it interesting for the first time she is on the other side of the fence. This time she was the one left, the one to be told she makes someone unhappy...I suppose that is why she comes to me for comfort as she knows I understand how she feels. It's pretty clear she is hurt, but she constantly labels her H a narcissist and blames him for this mess, not once have I heard her own up to a part in this. It's just all so sad.

H picked up S tonight. 50 degrees outside and he picked him up in his jeep with the top off. Says with the heater blasting, he will be fine. Then what's the point!?!? So Here I go running outside asking S if he wants his snow jacket! H looks at me like I'm crazy. I just don't get it!

Have a good night everyone