I'd be wondering why he's not divorced after all this time. Is he holding out hope for a reconciliation? Is it just a practical matter to keep one of them on insurance or something? Does he use that as an excuse not to marry his new girlfriends?
I'm kind of with you - I'm not looking to marry or cohabit or share finances right now - maybe I am becoming the Love Avoidant type myself! But given that, isn't this guy perfect for a friendly fling then, if he's going to end up leaving? You could enjoy him for a little bit knowing he's going to be gone.
(I find for me, at this stage in my life, I'm just a lot more casual about what relationships have to look like. Right now I'm seeing - occasionally, about once a month - a guy I dated before my last boyfriend. He's a guy who told me right off the bat he doesn't "do" relationships - that's why I moved on pretty quickly to the last boyfriend. But we stayed friends, and right now, the ability to know that if I need it, I can drive up to his place an hour and a half away and have a very pleasant day of company, conversation and cuddling with a smart funny sexy guy - then get back to my hectic life with no expectations is very comforting. )
