V, D's been to her Pediatrician about the bedwetting. She doesn't believe there is anything physically wrong, and that the issue is mostly emotional and/or that D is just a heavy sleeper (to be fair, D sleeps like a freaking rock. She's slept through an ahole neighbor firing a .50cal rifle 100 yards from the house, and both of us once slept through a tornado that passed within 1/2 a mile of us).
Don... thanks for the advice, and the grounding. I talked to my C about some specific help or a referral. We're talking more about it this coming Friday. Right now, her basic advice is "DON'T ENGAGE AT ALL WITH XW except for required logistics." I've been trying that but I've tended to allow XW to suck me in when she pushes the right button. C says ignore the buttons.
I cancelled the "let's talk to D about adoption" day for now until things are more settled. I have to make sure that I don't just let that go, and that this really is on hold "for now." When I get D into counseling, I'm hoping the C will have some advice on that.
School was closed on Thursday and Friday. As soon as I got the call from the county, I took the time off of work. XW wanted D again. I told her I had both days off already. She asked how I could have done that already, and I said school called, and after school had told me that they were talking about it and that it MIGHT happen. XW spewed at me, saying I did something wrong. ("Wow EastTN... anything see! You've known all week, got a call, and didn't tell me or even ask me, and you are low!") I'm getting f---ing TIRED of her trying to run my life and acting like I'm bad!
Thursday, XW texted: Can I take D to Disney on Ice (she meant Disney Live) at 2 on your Saturday next week. Mom wants to go with us and take Niece too. And Friend was looking to take HerD as well
I didnt respond immediately. Got another text later: Of course no answer, and no call from D again.
Me: We had tentative plans for next Saturday. I should know for sure by Monday evening if we do or not. Are you wanting to swap weekends?
XW: No just take her and then drop her off. What are tentative?
Me: I'm not comfortable with that. I'd swap weekends if it turns out we don't have plans for that day, though.
XW: No, I didn't ask what your plans are I asked what that meant and why you can't jsut say plans instead of acting all high and mighty.
XW: And it's ok, EastTN I know you're going to take her now since I asked! I will when I can. Be I know that's just how you are.
Friday, XW showed up to get D and didn't have a car seat. I gave her mine, she said thank you. I got it back on Sunday.
Sunday, D came home with pictures of her, XW, and OM. WTF am I supposed to do about that?
