Gordie - this is, in my opinion, where we can be lulled into complacency with the live-in. She is stalling things and OM seems to be on the back burner which all seems positive. But, I am sad to say, I think someone in MLC is very adept at duplicity.
Looking back on it, I think my ex was in a sort of walking zombie mode. He had a few brief instances where he said he was working on the m, but it was all words. He was lost and just existing from moment to moment.
This is where detachment is paramount for us. You live for you and work diligently to put the pieces of your life in place so that if you discover OM is back or there is OM3, or she is back on the "I must file bus" you rebound faster.
The best thing I did, with the help of those here and support from family, was plug along moving forward step by step. Because if her heart and soul was in it, you would know it.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
