I haven't responded lately because I don't know what else to say that hasn't been said. I wish we could get some other perspectives on your situation. Just keep working on you, is all I can say, because you can't control her. I know that. I've found that people chime in more on this site, the more you post, also. I'd suggest treating it like a journal for venting and reflection.

M: 33, W: 30 @BD
M 7, T 10
BD: Early Dec
W left: Late Dec
W got stuff: Late Jan
W sent S papers: Mid Feb
OM cnfrmd: Late Feb

Pain can yield tremendous growth OR everlasting sadness and bitterness.