Definitely some similarities there. My W has never held a steady job and will certainly have a tough time making enough money to have a standard of living she’s been used to. I think in her fantasy-head, she’d like us to remain friends, be able to spend quality family time together, have full custody of the kids, and somehow sustain her standard of living. It’s totally unrealistic.
She’s got a friend encouraging her to formalizing S, leading to D, so she can have her “freedom”. Again, this is wishful thinking. Her family means a lot to her, the kids mean everything to her. She’s foolish to think that she can be free of the emotional grip.
As MWD says, when the marriage ends, it means the death of the family and this really shakes the children and in-turn the ex-couple. The financial burden is often overlooked, minimized, or denied.
As I put together a formal S agreement, I will call it like it is and let her see what is to come. It’s a good hard dose of reality that is long overdue.
—————————————————— Married: 12 Together: 14 Me:41 W:42 S:11 S:8 Bomb dropped 2/2014 I moved out 5/2014 No formal separation Discovered A: 1/2018
