Hoping this can be saved, but having doubts

[reframe]

Eventful weekend.

I screwed something up Sat night related to one of our shared activities. W freaked on me, got pissed off and withdrawn.
I called her on it, and the discussion of the issue at the forefront became a R talk.

It was so so, she indicated that she had trouble trusting me because I wasn't there when she was sick, and I have always made her feel inadequate.
That she wasn't sure if things could be fixed, but she didn't know what she wanted to do. She also told me that she was not turned on all the time, just not attracted to me. She expected that to be really hurtful, but I said I understood, and that I'd be surprised if she was turned on in light of all the anger she was harboring for me.
She also indicated that she still does care about me deeply, and (like me) misses her best friend.

I suggested that we try a marriage positive therapist, but that it was only worthwhile if she was on board with it. She said she's consider it and that we'd talk again soon.


She also said that according to our prenup she'd essentially get nothing. (Assets were divided in anticipation of her having her own business).
I told her I was planning on giving her one of our cars if we separated, and she is now excited about trading it in for a better daily driver.

So on one hand, suggesting that we get out of relationship limbo and doing something that could speed up her timeline to be able to leave may be a mistake. On the other hand, we're communicating openly now, and I'm showing her that I won't stand in her way if she wants to leave. I also feel like if we have a future together, she'll need to be able to get past some of the hurt and anger from the past.

We left it at "we'll talk again soon". We kissed (sincerely) and said goodnight. It felt we were communicating openly, which is a start.

The next day she was more positive and affectionate to me, and I reciprocated a bit too hard, then did some "talking about the future". Not good, and she called me on it later in the day.
She was generally pleasant though, and friendly this morning.
I think this may be a positive step, I just need to really focus on not backsliding.