Just providing an update. I didn't have any problems letting her know about the tax situation. Additionally, she came by my house yesterday for a few minutes to pick up her mail and tax forms. We spoke for a little bit, it was pleasant, but mostly about logistics. I told her I'm packing up the rest of her things and will leave them in the front room of the house with her name on them. She said she'll come by some time this week to grab them. She did compliment the house being clean, again.
I asked her how work was going and we made a little small talk. I remained respectful, validated, looked her in the eyes, etc. I also made sure to end the conversation. I told her "have a good night" and then walked away to the living room. She then left a few seconds later.
One thing I noticed throughout the conversation is that she had a hard time looking me in the face/eyes. She would for a couple seconds and then start looking at the ground or the wall. I know it's most likely guilt. Also, I was dressed rather nice with jeans, a t-shirt, and my hair was done, clean shaven, etc. This is out of the ordinary for me, as when I'm home I'm usually in sweatpants or something comfortable and my hair isn't done. She looked rather disheveled and when I looked in her eyes I could tell she wasn't really happy.
But, that's not my problem right now. I'm focusing on me and it's really been helping. I didn't feel any negative or sad feelings when she left. It was strictly business. That is a huge step for me. I still love her, but detaching is making this process much easier.
This is the first time she's seen me in almost a month. I've lost almost 30lbs and am under 200lbs for the first time in 7 years. My face has slimmed considerably and I look great. I've been sticking to a strict diet of 1500 calories a day and doing minor exercise such as walking, pushups, situps, etc.
Something else I've been doing is being more decisive, confident, and shedding my Mr. Nice Guy. I have noticed a change in my interactions with people and they have been much more positive. My last few interactions with my wife I've been utilizing my new set of skills and I can tell a difference in how she reacts. When she first met me I was confident, decisive, etc. She loved that about me, however over the years I became much more of the "whatever you want honey" type of guys. I'm working on being that confident guy again.
Anyway, just wanted to post an update and journal our interactions.
M:2.5 T:8 H:31 W:27 S:12 BD:1/4/2018 W Moved Out: 1/8/2018 OM Confirmed: 2/19/18
