Thanks for all this advice. Actually, it is one of his biggest personal fears to be manipulated and controlled. I think this perfectly fits to him being such an extreme distancer. I know that he will never change this bc this is him. And I know that I can cope with it. I am not a pursuer because I feel weak or not self-confident - during our MR I was simply longing for emotional closeness. The more his distance increased the more my madness about it increased. I know I can handle this differently and I will do it now and I hope it is not too late. So I am switching between hope, doubts, despair, ...
