I understand your despair it’s part of the BS script but please just ride out the first few weeks, don’t do anything rash and keep posting here.
Do you truly want to save your MR? I’m sure you do or you wouldn’t be here and that alone is a huge step in helping you on your journey. Understanding why it happened and how these situations USUALLY pan out brings some comfort to the BS, there is a pattern that the WS follows, research it.
Know this is not about you, you could have been the most perfect W and STILL this would have happened. Doesn’t mean it has to define you, this is where DR can help.
None of us have time machines so we just have to get on with it BUT it hasn’t ended… You choose when your MR ends, as much has DR feels counter-intuitive try to do the principles at least for a while and gauge the reaction.
Leave him alone have patience and faith and work on you, try instead to enjoy the time you’ve been given to find yourself again the person he fell for in the first place.
Remember you have no control over his actions so focus on you, what else can you do…
Mark.
DR'ing started March 2017
Don't blow the last bridge up from fantasy island, act "as if".
