I agree with V and Juju, though you have already addressed their comments. LOL It doesn't make a lot of sense to me that a counselor would urge you to move closer to someone who doesn't seem to make time for their own children. If you move closer, will that change? That is a rhetorical question, by the way, as I know that no one but here actually knows the answer to that. While your children are still pretty young, so you have to make decisions for them, I don't think it hurts to ask their feelings and really hear them. I would be interested to know what the other adults who work closely with your children (teachers, school counselors, etc) think about it. Good luck in whatever you decide. The one thing that seems obvious to me as I read your posts is that you are an awesome dad who works very hard to take care of your kids and to put them first.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids