WAS just served me with papers!!!

[SH_]

I have to completely detach at this point. Because the only way to ever reconcile is to let him go. At this point he does not want to be saved.

I am sorry you are going through this. It is a difficult thing I know.

Take detachment one step at a time.
I have long held to the believe that detachment is not a place or final action.
It is a constant state of choice and actions.
Start small

One can not lose 50 pounds in one night.

One must start with actions of diet and exercise to lose first one pound then another.

Pain and temptation from old habits will work to deter the person aiming for health through weight loss.

Detachment is much the same.
You can not "completely detach over night.
You will need to take small actions first.
You will work to not react to physical feelings at the thought of him, or in his presence.
You want to halt thoughts of understanding all that he does or says...
You will work towards changing habits of attachment that have formed over time.

Take it one small step at a time.