A Father, that was called a Super Hero-Wolverine

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These are key lessons that I attribute getting to where I am at so far. There are many more lessons. These are the foundations that I have built my journey on and come back to when things feel of kilter.

I still have a long way to go. I have to perfected my knowledge, skills and abilities in all of this as of yet, but I regroup often and reestablish new goals and routines as I make myself aware that I am in need of continued healing and growth.
I want those that feel there is no light at the end of the tunnel too know, that the light is there. If you choose to walk forward.

Steer clear of anywhere or anyone that tells you of all the grim things that you will now have to face because of your situation. This creates more fear and doubt and oft times the overwhelming feelings of despair. You will be fine. your children can be fine if you work towards it. you have more power in all of this than you may believe. You can't control everything that happens, but you do control you...your children will see this. Be the rock and lighthouse for them.

In my journey, I am experiencing happiness and fulfillment from all that I live. My daughters are in the most wonderful of places with my oldest, D19, starting her own business and doing things that seemed impossible just a few short years ago. D7 is excelling in school and has grown socially in amazing ways. They are happy. I am happy. We see glimpses of their mother in a better place.

I continue to choose forgiveness and love for my former W. Those of you that know my story, will be glad to hear that the crazy and angry have subsided and we now have cordial and peaceful interactions and conversations. Dare I say they are interactions of kindness even.

It was 2 years ago that a dance for a daughter and her father was the starting point of a nightmare...and this past Friday I took my D7 and D19 to a similar dance. This time it was my former W that reached out and inquired if I would like to take d7 on her parenting night to the dance. As she works at d7's school she assisted me in coordinating the evening and helped me in making it a memorable night for me and my daughters. A new memory has now been placed over the time and date of a bad memory.

If that is not a light at the end of a very dark tunnel, then I don't know what is.

My family and I are very blessed and the experience and journey of the past 2 years has been a challenging one. But the lessons and the growth from it all have blessed my family tremendously.

I share my gratitude with so many of you that were in these forums and I thank you for being there in the moments of darkest despair...the moments that I felt there was nowhere to turn. It was the compassion. The understanding. The kindness of strangers that cheered me to stand up from the canvas one more time. As many times as it took, too be able to stand on my own.

You each will forever be etched into my story of triumph... and my heart. Some were weathering their own storms. Some sharing their own stories of success. Others, simply sharing a kind word. You each are the fans and supporters that my family will know as the inspiration for me to push on and experience the calm and joy that I have today.

May god bless each of you

And in the fashion that many of you know me for, I leave a favorite quote of mine from the Hero that I relate to...


"You're not doin' anyone any good by chewin' on the past, kid. What's done is done. Now let's just concentrate on setting things right." ~James Howlett aka Wolverine