LRT -

[rminer]

Honestly speaking, this perspective makes me resign. It simply doesn't matter how I act and react and detach and stop chasing and get a life and whatsoever. As for the marriage it is too late - from all perspectives. That is reality.

G,

I have only been here a month so I am no expert. Not even close.

One thing I have learned here is that it is not over yet. If you want to fight for your marriage, fight! It won't be easy and the road will be long, but in the end you will either save your marriage or walk away knowing you did everything you possibly could to save it.

If you haven't, pick up a copy of The Divorce Remedy (DR book). It puts a lot of things in to perspective and will give you a good idea on how to proceed. I know I sound like a commercial, but it helped calm me down and allowed me to see some things in my marriage that I never realized were happening.

Yes, a lot of the talk on this board is preparing yourself to be on your own again because it is a possibility, but you will find many, many people here who will listen and give you sage advice on what you need to do to have a chance at regaining your H.

If nothing else, it is great therapy and support.

Goid luck to you and stick to it!