Hi Gordie, just on the backing off thing. I can remember reading a very wise post on this forum a couple of years ago. The big message was around stepping back and realising that others will take their own journey in their own way - And that we will do the same. We may not know what is best for them - or even for ourselves and it is important to recognise and respect that there is dignity in taking our own paths and dealing with our own struggles. Ie: it isn't mean, and it is a loving (if difficult) thing to do.

Sounds like you are generally in a pretty good place - all things considered :-)

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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus