Reframe,

GALing and being kind is a very fine line. It's also full of emotions. You have to go with what works and not with what you are feeling.

Let your W do all the physical initiation. It will be small things, like bumping up against you. Grabbing your arm. Placing her hands somewhere on you. Just pay attention for those signs. Do not get overly excited when they happen.

You being physical should be the last thing you try to win back. Work on gaining her respect. You Will know when she is ready to be physical.

Don't be mean or cold and GAL: Go out and do things for yourself. If your W ask where you are going. Let her know. (Don't say none of your business) But don't go out your way to offer details. Enjoy your life. It's going to be hard not to think about the M, but GALing will show you that you will be ok no matter what happens with the M.

Read up on detaching with love. Even if you recon, you still will have to learn not to be dependent on your W. Detaching shows her that you can stand on your own. And thru all of this you can still be kind to her.

Being kind is not being taken advantage of. Being kind comes from a strong, confident person. If you feel as thou you are being taken advantage of, then you have went past the point of kindness, and most likely into the realm of pursuit.

Example: Saying good morning is being kind. Speaking in any fashion is being kind. But, saying what do you want me to do for you today is pursuing. Let her come to you and don't offer yourself up until you'll are officially in recon. But, be flexible with all of this, if you are going to the store and its clearly out of the way, it's ok, to ask her if she needs something.

Onward and forward


M:37 W:37
T:11 M:10
S17, S13, S10, S4
BD:06/28/17
OM confirmed 07/20/17
Recon the M 10/29/17
Working hard:2gether

Onward and forward

This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.