Thanks for your answer. Remembering our wedding day makes me both hopeful and sad.
I can imagine if I work hard using the LRT and stop chasing that he WILL change his mind. But what happens then? Will he then return to our marriage or leave it broken in order to not have to admit a fault?
Maybe I have to mention what he said several times: That in case of reconciliation he himself would have the role of the "misguided loser" and I would act like a "conqueror". Just because of this mindset, my husband would never reconcile.
How does the WAS feel if he returns? Does he actually feel like a "misguided loser"?
I know my thoughts relate to something far down the road. And I know that LRT is meaningful independently of what will happen in future. Still, I need some deeper understanding to let these thoughts go and focus on the present and myself instead. So being grateful for any insight into the mind of the leaving spouse
