Getting ready to move forward

[petri]

We had a face to face R talk. W is getting her needs filled with OM. So there is no need to think MR as an option. She told me that she has acted most of our M. And I believe that. I've seen glimpses of the "real" her. She told me that maybe things would be different if she stopped acting. But she's in total denial. She has done everything right, I'm the bad guy. When we talked about if we are willing to commit to our MR she said I don't know. She is afraid that everything will be the same for her. That I haven't changed and thus can't fullfill her needs. How in earth can I show her if she isn't willing to see?