Is this all wayward? Telling that she has been thinking if we should get back together and then informing me that there is an OM. Rude is a mild word to use here.

Me:39 W:36
S:12 D:9
T:14 M:11
Separation:sep. 1 2017
D filed oct. 2017
D finalized july 2018
OM confirmed feb 2018
D finalized July 2018

The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.