What has your lawyer advised about remaining in the home with her? Sorry if I missed it, I have gotten behind in some threads.
Legally, leaving the house should have no effect on who gets to keep the house. However, practically, judges are people and if the judge sees that I move out, have a place and the W and kids were in the home, then he might decide the status quo is in the best interest of the kids and award the house to her. Because D17 is one year from graduation, my L said a judge might also delay by 1 year the sale of the house so she can graduate from the HS.
Emotionally, for me to move out wouldn't be good. I would not be able to find a suitable place for my kids to come over, and the loss of the familiarity of the house on top of all the other up-heavals would be tough to deal with. Not that being constantly reminded of what W is doing is much better.
Originally Posted By: sandi2
A restraining order? I don't understand how that works when you live under the same roof. But you don't have to explain it all, b/c I was the one who got behind in reading. How long till the D is final?
By law we are considered separated even under same roof. The D papers include TRO's built into them about travel with children.
D final no earlier than August 2018. This assumes we are able to agree on everything.
Originally Posted By: sandi2
Maybe you can help others on the board to learn from your mistakes. I fully agree that pro-marriage therapy is needed when a couple is going to piece their M back together. We all need an outside and experienced point of view. Most of us need professional guidance to keep on us track, b/c piecing is so hard.
This is one of the main lessons learned from piecing. I should have done IC too to deal with trust issues following BD#1.
