The Fab 5 and Dad

[J5K]

I hope everyone is staying warm. We received 8 inches of snow here!

S8 and S6 are now on medication to help them with their ADHD. Poor guys are tired at certain times of the day. It has helped them focus and listen to adults more. Mis-behaving has decreased at school for them.

XW is upset that 4 of the 5 boys are on meds now. She feels that I did not consider other alternatives. Last week we had a 4 hour conversation, it started with discussing the kids and then rolled into talking about the past. I stood my ground and in the end when I hung up the phone, I felt no guilt or remorse on what I said.

Her contact with the boys is still inconsistent. I am also trying to be more flexible on when she calls. She had not called in 4 days and yesterday she calls at 7:30 pm which is a half an hour after the time agreed in the judgement.

As time has gone on, I think more about how tough the kids are. They totally understand what is going on. S8 said he prefers to stay here instead of moving closer to mom. He said he has cousins and family here. There is not a whole lot of family near mom. His preference is for her to move closer to us.

Psychiatrist is trying to get me in a mindset to move there. He says it will be better for the boys. How do I let go of my ego and execute? When I think about it being better for the boys because they will get to see her more, there are times I am confident with going through with it.

I also think that I overthink things. I think about what xW says or what she will say and I let it get in my head. My initial reaction is it is all talk and lies about her becoming more involved. I don’t even know why I worry about it. I should just focus on knowing I did something good for the boys.

Oh! And one last thing, I keep seeing the silly video of the divorced man on FB and how he has 2 boys and his goal of how to teach them how to be a caring man by doing things for their mother. I feel 99.99% of the D’d population would think that post is not real. Thoughts on this?