Still surviving

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H yelled at me today. Screamed at me over the phone while I was working and then hung up on me.

I, for sure, had escalated a fight because he was engaging in a Talk with me where I asked consent to ask every single question and then, suddenly, I had no right to be asking him questions. I definitely lost my temper and just started naming, in a row, all the things that are my fault... asking questions, not asking questions, telling him what I need, not telling him what I need. It's all my fault, everything, all of it.

So, I was on the phone basically saying I was all done with his calvin ball and that I need him to stop, stop deflecting his [censored] on to me. yeah, I know, I'm basically asking him to be done with his MLC and wouldn't that be nice.

So, he eventually said he couldn't help yelling at me and if I didn't like it, he would pack up. He has often threatened my relationship with him when I stand up for myself.

I'm still in a place where I've had ENOUGH so I said, "If my choices are share space with someone who thinks he can treat me anyway he wants and yell at me when he wants to or for you to move out, I vote move out."

So, he said, "DONE. I will be gone in 1 hour and I will notify you by instant message if I will be longer."

I came home and he was packing up a small suitcase and now "going to his parents house for a couple of days". I just kept reiterating, "If you would rather move out than treat me well, then I will help you pack your bags."

So, um. er?