It's good to hear your updates even though I wish your news would be about your wife returning, begging to reconcile and do anything it takes. The only thing I can think of, that may not fit well here, is to question Divorce Busters before you make your final choice. It's what we're all following, but if it hasn't brought you any results after all these many months, then you don't have much left to lose. You could always try asking your wife out to a coffee shop just to talk. You could tell her she looks beautiful. You could buy her a nice gift. Anything to break-the-ice and create an opening to re-connect without any pressure seems worthwhile to me. She's still your wife. Perhaps she thinks you're doing so great because you look great and she's trying to do the same. There's no way though this isn't affecting her. She must be thinking and feeling a lot of things about what's happened. If you have absolutely nothing else left to lose I think a goodwill gesture or two is how I'd proceed...
