Neither one of us is going to leave the house, so I need to make it so we have as little contact as possible.
You referred to the house you "use" belonging to her friend. Is that a house you stay in during the skiing vacation?
What has your lawyer advised about remaining in the home with her? Sorry if I missed it, I have gotten behind in some threads.
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I just bought tickets for all of us and sent her the itinerary (which I must do according to the Temporary Restraining Orders associated with filing for D
A restraining order? I don't understand how that works when you live under the same roof. But you don't have to explain it all, b/c I was the one who got behind in reading. How long till the D is final?
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I should have insisted on marriage counseling to address some of the lingering issues as well as the new ones that popped up after BD#1. At the time, she would have probably gone to counseling
Maybe you can help others on the board to learn from your mistakes. I fully agree that pro-marriage therapy is needed when a couple is going to piece their M back together. We all need an outside and experienced point of view. Most of us need professional guidance to keep on us track, b/c piecing is so hard.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
