Hi DBers - Any advice out there on whether or not to expose that you're aware of your W being with OM?

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Married: 12 Together: 14
Me:41 W:42
S:11 S:8
Bomb dropped 2/2014
I moved out 5/2014
No formal separation
Discovered A: 1/2018