File for D because it is the best for you. And as your L advises.
In some sitches early filing is vital and in others in makes no difference.
To your future and those of your kids.
Cards, chest close any order.
You are no longer a couple, it's your interests that determine your future. A wayward like the G can play games with D filing, and you can lose control.
Extreme self care includes paying the bills and having money in retirement.
Just saying
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW