There is time – at least six months – for her to show me something different. If not, I will file. I don’t care if it makes her think she was right about whatever. The only real DB philosophy that I will continue is NC/staying dark and self-improvement. I am done with her, but as AS says, give it a few more months and see if you still feel that way. The hourglass has started.
I agree that if come six months from now you feel the same way, then you should file. You would have been physically separated for a year, and if the W is not making any indications toward Recon, and you have been able to grow and detach, then you'll be ready. I also don't want the D, but now that my W has filed, I must do everything possible for my kids and my best interests. Sometimes this causes me to do things that will anger my W or make it less likely we will ever recon, but that is the nature of the D process.
