Now, I’m afraid to ask my husband what the doctor said because I’m afraid that either he didn’t, in which case I’m going to be hurt that he didn’t remember to do it/assume that he doesn’t really want to have a baby with me, or he did, but bringing it up will stress him out (and also worry that the fact that he didn’t think to tell me what the doctor said will also mean he doesn’t really want to have a baby with me).
Elsa,
You're putting undo stress on yourself and your husband. If he didn't see the doctor, it doesn't mean that he doesn't want to have a baby with you. Most guys would rather have brain surgery than allow some total stranger to cut up their nuts. I put-off my vasectomy for a year and a half because I didn't want some guy to touch my junk. There's surgery and then there's nut surgery; they're two totally different things. Don't go nuts over his reluctance to have the reversal surgery; it's normal for a guy to have some fear and trepidation.
