Yes I do recognize that at the moment I’ve been focusing on the A because of all the pain it has brought me. But of course I know I had a big part in allowing our R get so poor. My issues have been that at times I can be controlling and a little too sarcastic, sometimes I would make jokes at my wife’s expense and other time I would dimenish the way she was feeling. I wish I could take all that back and have been a more sensitive husband. However she has some issues as well that not only went silent she also never acknowledge them. She was the type that never apologized which drove me nuts I was always the one that had to smooth things over.
I would say on my previous marriage I had the same issues just with a different person, I did not learn from my mistakes. According to her she says that her relationship was good with her ex except for the part where he was verbally abusive with her kids. I have to improve myself, I no longer want to care for the A. I’ve stopped trying to find out and I’m not going to try and depose her OM unless legally it’s benefecial to me which I don’t think it is here since I’m in a no fault state.
