My initial reaction was anger as I felt betrayed. Couldn’t sleep properly for days. When I’d think about it, I’d tightly clench my fist wanting to fight back. I needed to know a bit more about who this OM was. Found out he’s in a R. He has a kid from previous R, and his partner has kids from her previous R. So here’s this guy in at least his 2nd R, and he’s doing this. But my jaw dropped that my W would get involved with a guy that’s in a R and has a family. I’m thinking, seriously, you’re ok being a home wrecker?
My gut now is to go dark, use the LRT with the exception of the kids. What i’m Struggling with is whether to expose to her what i know. It may exacerbate things if she feels threatened that her fairytale romance is under attack. Also, part of me feels like the OM’s W deserves to know.
—————————————————— Married: 12 Together: 14 Me:41 W:42 S:11 S:8 Bomb dropped 2/2014 I moved out 5/2014 No formal separation Discovered A: 1/2018
