Hoping this can be saved, but having doubts

[reframe]

It seem like you need a good marriage friendly therapist. I’m not sure where you live, but where I am it’s like looking for a pink unicorn.

Nevertheless, it’s almost like you need an intervention. As an outsider after reading your story, it seems that you need to major tuneup. What you don’t to do is let her drop the bomb. It’s like trying to put a genie back into the bottle. Why let it get that far? Nip it in the bud. It’s easier now, then after some has filed. Because one that happens there ar things you can’t take back.

I wish that were an option. When we had our last blow up (right before Christmas) I asked if she would see a consoler with me and she refused, saying "she needed to work on herself right now".

We haven't had any R talks since then. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't think I'm in a position to try and force this issue, and the prevailing wisdom on this board is that it won't be effective until both partners are going willing.

I'd love to have something else I could "DO" though...