New LBS - need advice, part deux

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Oh, and one more thing. I had a realization of sorts today that has been helping me detach and GAL.


I thought to myself what if she were to come back right now, would I be in the right state of mind and confident that I'd continue to be the best person I can be? Alternatively, would I be in the right state of mind and confident I could have a relationship with anyone right now?

The answer is no. It helped me realize I have just as much work, growing, and discovering myself as she does, regardless of the outcome of our situation. As Cadet says, she really did give me the gift of time. This entire situation made me realize things about myself that I never considered to be detrimental to relationships only until now.

That epiphany has changed my outlook on this entire situation and the DB program. I truly see now that it is for ME to help become the best me and to focus on the journey, not the destination.