I’ve never heard of a NMMNG meeting before … interesting. I know that I’ve been too nice and that she’s taking advantage of it. In part I do it because I want to see the kids all the time, and secondly because I honestly thought that by listening to her, helping her with things around the house would help her see that I’ve changed. I believe her love languages are acts of service and words of affirmation. The more I showed this side, the more amicable she would be, she’d ask me to come over more often for dinner and such. I wrongly took this as a positive step forward in our R.

But I’m afraid that she now thinks she has me as a confident friend/husband without intimacy, and she is seeking the relationship elsewhere.

Seeing evidence of her being/planning with OM, has really shook me up … or perhaps woke me up that change needs to happen.

Question I’m struggling with is whether to reveal to her I know what she’s up to with this OM?

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Married: 12 Together: 14
Me:41 W:42
S:11 S:8
Bomb dropped 2/2014
I moved out 5/2014
No formal separation
Discovered A: 1/2018