We have 2 kids on the autism spectrum and pour a significant portion of finances into the kid’s private schooling, therefore when we physically separated, I moved in with my parents as I could not afford my own place. The kids live with her in what was the family home.
For the first several months, we tried marriage counselling, but it became clear that she felt that the counsellor was siding with me, and we ended it.
We have frequent contact, occasionally there are days with no contact. Several days a week I’ll have dinner, most weekends I’m around the house doing stuff with the kids. More often than not we engage in conversation not just about the kids, but whatever is going on. So there’s quite a bit of family time.
Vacation was to be a family getaway, and a way for her to let go of something negative that had been her life (non-marriage issue). She was saying she wanted to come back fresh from her vacation and leave the bad stuff behind.
I’m not dating. She’s not dating, or at least has never spoke about it.
—————————————————— Married: 12 Together: 14 Me:41 W:42 S:11 S:8 Bomb dropped 2/2014 I moved out 5/2014 No formal separation Discovered A: 1/2018
