Im still healing and coming to terms with all of this. It happened because i was inexperienced, disorganised and lazy. It was easy for me to trust him. It was less work to not insist on keeping track of financials. Keeping track of him.
I am not going to do this when son is a teenager. I will have to be more suspicious and more alert instead of passive and trusting. Easy to ket kids go out with their friends, but requires eddort to check on his friends, friends parents, where hes going etc.
Regarding trust in confident men...
1. First bf was a confident man. He was abusive in that jealous cheating controller way.
2. Ex was a confident man. Arrogant. In control. On top of things. He waa opposite of that 1st bf though. I misread his detachment for someone not prone to being a womanizer and for so eone that would not be possessive and jealous.
3. New guy is also a confident man. Has a bit of arrogance. Hes not a womanizer, or addict. What else is left to look out for? I went for him because he responsibky raised his child by himself prioritized family and was a LBS. Opposite of my ex in that way.
Do i talk to new guy about these concerns? How do i even have these types of talks with someone? I would nkt even know how to bring it up.
