Hoping this can be saved, but having doubts

[Holding]

Reframe, it's very common for the coaches' advice to go against the majority viewpoint on the forums here. There's no good answer to that. You have to make the call. The coaches do have more experience in dealing with this though.

For whatever it's worth, I sent a friendly "thinking of you" TM today. No ILY or anything.
She called me and chatted eagerly a little bit later.

You may not realize it, but this is pursuit. Try to back off of that.

The trick with this approach is not falling into pursuit mode. My mood is also WAY to dependent on how our last interaction happened to have gone.

You'll drive yourself crazy thinking that every convo could be the make-or-break moment in saving your M.

Slow and steady.