Hoping this can be saved, but having doubts

[Coconut]

Hey, to further confuse things I just had a DB call with Chuck.
He suggested that:
1. I do a 180 in how I handle arguments, and stop being the peacemaker, say "I'm not going to put up with being treated that way" and either suggest that she take a walk, or walk away.
2. That I continue to GAL
3. That I resume leaving her love notes, initiating cuddling and speaking her love languages here and here - this one is a tough one for me, because of all the effort I've put into not pursuing.
4. That I not ask her to leave - since I don't mean it right now.

On this board, most of us, certainly me are not professionals and I would certainly put more weight to what the coaches advise. With that said, #’s 1, 2 & 4 are actions (or inaction in the case of #4) and are not conversations. I’m not sure I understand the reasoning with #3, but again, I’m not a professional, but I think the other 3 go right along with what I said.

My point is, you taking an action doesn’t require a conversation with her about what/why/how, you just take control of your life (GAL, Boundaries, you move out) as you see fit.