Hoping this can be saved, but having doubts

[reframe]

Hey, to further confuse things I just had a DB call with Chuck.
He suggested that:

1. I do a 180 in how I handle arguments, and stop being the peacemaker, say "I'm not going to put up with being treated that way" and either suggest that she take a walk, or walk away.

2. That I continue to GAL
3. That I resume leaving her love notes, initiating cuddling and speaking her love languages here and here - this one is a tough one for me, because of all the effort I've put into not pursuing.
4. That I not ask her to leave - since I don't mean it right now.