Hoping this can be saved, but having doubts

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Doodler -

I do want to reconcile, but I can't do it on my own. My DB coach has suggested being a friend and treating her like a visiting houseguest. I've been trying that, but I feel like there is not enough separation between us, and me being around just gives her the opportunity to blame me for every small thing to justify her decisions.



Coconut -

There is certainly an element of truth to that.

That said, I need to have a conversation to kick her out.
I don't expect it to go well. In fact, I expect her to get nasty and say things like that she was willing to consider reconciling but isn't now, etc..

But I still feel like I clearly need to state my terms for the circumstances I'm willing to live in.