Just make sure you are aware that she could be doing all sorts of stuff with all sorts of people right now, and you would have no idea. So be smart and protect yourself - emotionally and physically (should things head that way).
My C talked to me about how much emotional control she had over me. At its worst after BD, everything about me hindered on her. So all it is, is a mindset, of just focusing on myself really. I don't know how this went for anyone else, but for me it taking some time. I find myself doing good for most of the day, then at night I'm over analyzing things or worrying, like I said earlier.
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If you are always willing to bend to whatever she asks, then it makes it seem like you dont have anything else to do or that all you want to do is be with/near her.
Absolutely agree. I know that doing the opposite is my best route. Again, maybe it just takes time and getting used of NOT interacting with her, talking, venting etc...
I did want to pose a question though. And it's somewhat to something I asked earlier...
Hypothetical situation- A few days have gone by with no interactions (her work week this normally happens. Then Sun\Mon she has kids so theres a little there.) She sends me a random text message, not about kids, logistics or R. I don't respond for a few hours, or till the morning or just longer than I'd normally be before DR.
There is a good chance she would come back with a snippy comment. Like she's done recently: "Oh okay. were done texting too" and I can hear the sarcastic tone its said in.
I guess my question which I assume will be easily answered is, what do I do with sarcastic, snippy, b***hy comments about me being too busy, unavailable, or short with her?
I'm sure others have came across this response from their spouse and the last thing I want is more conflict.
I won't sacrafice myself anymore, for the sake of resolving and staying away from conflict... However I'm not sure how to deal with these moments when they happen.
