Thanks everyone for reading and responding to my thread. I do find all feedback helpful.
Mowgli,
I agree with you (and Jim) about the detachment. I reread the thread. Just difficult to do when you see each other everyday.
PA is highly unlikely. My W just completed graduate school 6 months ago. She was working and doing school, which took most of her time. She is now in a new job and leaves at 7am and returns home between 4-6 pm. She often does paperwork to prepare for the next day from 8-10pm. Essentially, she has no time for a PA.
Your Point #4, I agree and need to work on this even more.
