H, how the hell are you dealing with yours? Because the "kid" button is a hell of a button for her to push. I'm trying to let it roll off my back, but it's hard as hell. I have a philosophy that I'm free to make mistakes and mess up my life, but NOT D's, and everything that comes out of this woman's mouth makes me second guess myself.
XW sent an imessage voice message. "Please tell D I love her" I responded. I don't know if it's foolishly or not, but this current situation is screwing with me in all kinds of ways.
Me: I'll play that for her this evening and see if she'll call. I tried again this morning and she still didn't want to. I tried to get her excited and said she could tell you about her rain boots that she's wearing for the first time and she still didn't want to. She still won't tell me why.
XW: She told me why. You can stop acting innocent.
Me: Haven't lied to you. Not starting now.
XW: You know, that's where you are lying. You just don't want to remember bc you know how dirty it was. And now this. 2 weeks of barely talking to her and only having her on the weekend yeah you are trying to push me out of her life. I'm her mom and always will be.
Me: You're absolutely her mom and always will be. Nothing in the world will change that and I wouldn't change it if I could.
XW: Sure EastTN. That's why you are telling her you don't want her to talk to me. She told me EastTN. She told every one here. It's just a super coincidence the timing is all! After the way you did her that Friday and then all of a sudden she is acting towards me how she was so mad and upset with you that weekend and didn't want to talk to you at all. I'm not stupid EastTN. You're just trying to get back at me for whatever and use her to do it. It's ok, she knows I love her. I just hope she knows that forever and you don't go brainwashing her too
Me: I try every day to get her to talk to you. Every day. Do you know how MAD she gets at me becasue I keep encouraging her to call? I don't know what's wrong I don't know why she doesn't want to call. I have NEVER told her I don't want her to call you. If she asks I give her my phone. Period. I don't get in the middle of your conversations. I do EVERYTHING I can do to support her relationship with you. I even encourage her relationship with OM (and yeah that hurts just about as much you you'd expect it to but it's not about me it's about HER and she deserves to have good relationships with the people in her life no matter what I think of them). Not once have I ever spoken bad about you to her. Not once have I ever spoken bad about him to her. Not once. I am not going to hurt our little girl. Ever. And what you're suggesting is the worst kind of hurt you can inflict on a child.
XW: That's what she HAS said EastTN! And honestly I have no reason to NOT believe her. Why would she say that. How would she know to say something like that. Either way, you are not co parenting and you are not being a parent. She is 7! She needs structure and discipline! Not a friend!
Me: Structure is exactly what she has. We get up at the same time every day, get ready the same way every day, we're at school within five minutes of the same time every day. She gets picked up within five minutes of the same time every day. We do homework for 30-75 minutes every night. We read together every night. We sing together every night. She gets her bath around the same time every night except Scout nights when we don't have enough time. Bed time is the same every night. I try to get her to call EVERY day and EVERY night. I'm NOT going to force her though. I did that. She resents it. I'm not doing that to her. I hurts her and like I said I'm not going to hurt our baby. I've told you for a year. You and I isn't you and her. Wasn't ever and won't ever be. She LOVES you! She loves him, too. And I'm happy she has that love because if she didn't then something would be terribly wrong. If you think I'd take that away for her then I don't know what to tell you. I've arranged by ENTIRE LIFE around her so I don't EVER let her down. I won't let her down like that, either.
