Still work at the same place, and I guess it makes me look ignorant, but I really don't think its anything inappropriate. Also, am I wrong for not caring if it was? I feel like that is only going to hinder me, from being the best possible version of myself and have a PMA.
Lets not mince words here. She had a secretive emotional connection with another man. Thats inappropriate, workplace or not.
That said, youre right. It doesnt really matter right now. Just make sure you are aware that she could be doing all sorts of stuff with all sorts of people right now, and you would have no idea. So be smart and protect yourself - emotionally and physically (should things head that way).
Originally Posted By: Kilo
I am just taking it one day at a time, but it felt good to leave each other with a smile for a change.
I think your interactions were overall pretty good. I will warn you to not be too available. I feel like you acquiesced to her every desire in what you wrote. Come over an hour early? yes. Long hug? yes. Come inside? yes. Have a cigarette? yes. I think it's important to remember that people value the things that arent easy to acquire. If you are always willing to bend to whatever she asks, then it makes it seem like you dont have anything else to do or that all you want to do is be with/near her. I would say after going through her house, making like you had something important to do would have been a better choice.
I dont think little things like this are going to make or break your opportunities for R. I more think that it's a mindset that you want to have. "My time is valuable. I deserve to be valued."
