One of the hardest things I’ve read and experienced within situations is the “temperature checking”, I’ve had this presented to me three times and each time fell for getting involved in a R conversation!
Here’s the thing – this ^^^ is NOT for your benefit, she’s beginning to feel a loss of power within the R or a loss of control based on your management of your situation. This scares her as she doesn’t feel 100% comfortable that her EA or PA is going to last so need that fallback option, you can literally prepare for the cycles..!
Kilo please don’t underestimate how an EA can be any less damaging than a PA, you really need to keep doing all the DR’ing you have been and look after your kids and you. Forget about her let her get through her issues don’t try and fix things for her. Look for signs NOT WORDS but actions that steadily prove to you that she is remorseful and willing to work at the MR, the signs are good BUT every temp check is!
I find it so difficult to give advice so take what I say with a pinch of salt but I feel that you will either find her give you the cold shoulder over the next few days/weeks OR carrying on doing as you posted. Maybe the vets can chime in here but I feel if this continues consistently then you could be well on your way to bringing this to a successful conclusion.
Rooting for you.
Mark.
DR'ing started March 2017
Don't blow the last bridge up from fantasy island, act "as if".
